While the holiday period is a joyful time for most, for others it can be a nightmare.
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Instances of domestic violence are known to spike at this time of year and a number of experts have warned those at risk to take proper precautions.
Carrie’s Place CEO Jan McDonald, who has more than 20 years experience dealing with domestic violence, said having a safety plan was essential.
“Women need to be putting together a plan around where they can go, particularly when children are involved,” she said.
“Usually there will be some sort of history and victims need to think about what their options are.
“The safe places they can go and how to get away. Do you have access to a car? Where are the keys kept? Put some money aside and make sure you have key documents and proof of identity.
“Another thing is to pack a small bag of clothes for you and your kids that you have quick access to.”
Ms McDonald said there was anecdotal evidence to suggest Christmas was a dangerous time for domestic violence.
“I’d only be speculating, but over the years we tend to see tensions in interpersonal relationships run high [at this time],” she said.
“People feel compelled to get together with family members. There is the pressure of money and material goods like buying presents and being able to provide for a family.”
Central Hunter police domestic violence liaison officer Senior Constable Jenny Brown said alcohol was another trigger.
“Alcohol is used a lot more at this time of year,” she said.
“It is a contributing factor, it can be a trigger and we often hear the comment ‘he’s a great bloke when he’s sober’.
“Alcohol is not a cause, but it can be a trigger and a factor in domestic violence.”
Ms McDonald said her organisation saw the aftermath of holiday domestic violence in January and February.
“Domestic violence is very dangerous and very complex,” she said.
“Many women live with that violence and, particularly if it’s physical violence, any moment could go from harming them to killing them.
“The most important thing to us is that people know how to stay safe and who they can ring to help.
“Every time a woman rings the police we guestimate up to two women who aren’t ringing – they’re scared or don’t trust the system, as well as a whole range of other reasons.”
Central Hunter crime manager Detective Inspector John Zdrilic said he encouraged women in danger of domestic violence to come forward.
“The message to be sent home is if you are a victim of domestic violence then don’t be silent,” he said.
“Put your hand up and seek help, not just from the police but there are people out there ready, willing and able to help.
“Don’t suffer in silence, there are people here to help you.”
Central Hunter police have specialist domestic violence liaison officers to help those at risk.
If you need help from domestic violence call Maitland police on 4934 0200.
HAVE A SAFETY PLAN
- If you have an AVO carry it with you at all times.
- Tell your family and friends. Try to have people around you.
- Trust your instincts. If you don’t feel safe in a situation – get out.
- Check doors and windows in the house are secure and lockable.
- Talk to your neighbours about your situation. Ask them to call the police if they are concerned about your safety.
- Arrange to have quick access to a phone. Borrow a mobile if necessary, at home have your cordless phone close to hand.
- Always call triple-0 in an emergency rather than the local police station. Not all stations are staffed at all times.
- Keep a bag packed and stored close to hand (in the car, wardrobe, friend’s house) in case you need to leave in a hurry. Include things like money, change of clothes, ID, medication and important documents.